How healthy is your marriage? Are you happy in it or tired of it? If you're tired, who is to blame? Do you say your spouse, in-laws, friends, poverty, your job or lack of it? You may not like these questions, but I would tell you the truth - your marriage is what you make of it.You are the number one friend or foe of your marriage. You determine what happens in it; you can either make it better or destroy it.