On this book were going to be talking about the 2 predominant communication styles which should improve your effectiveness as a communicator, persuader and /or as a leader. Especially CRUCIAL to folks entering a new group of people where the perfect calibration of strength and approachability is crucial in gaining a solid foothold in the group. People are too hung up on techniques and tactics without realizing there are actually 2 predominant modes or styles of communication one could shift into, to hit the sweet spot 'and maximize communication and relationship effectiveness not to mention persuasiveness and compliance, from your peers and subordinates Choosing the wrong one at the wrong time or to the wrong people? You lose respect, authority and they won't follow or believe anything you say Even worse...they'll shun you out PERMANENTLY for coming in too strong or too weak and miscalibrated Introduction6 The Newbie and his homework8 New house, new rules 9 Knowing the players10 Credibility building11 Chipping away12 Technical Experts and Know -it- alls12 Pockets of powers13 Not created equal15 Being the force of change16 Communication between the sexes17 Male psychology17 Female psychology18 Initial communication assessment phase in business19 Direct style communications20 Group talks and Direct style22 Authority and Decisiveness23 Arguments and Verbal jousts25 Too Controlling26 Hinting your power27 Power is just in the mind29 Weak communication30 Alphas and Betas31 Too stiff32 Not listening33 Flexibility33 From the edge, inwards34 Indirect style35 Language from the edge36 Asking questions37 Indirect requiring more direct means38 Arguments39 Protection of Egos39 Calibration and balance is key41 Direct style transitioning to Indirect42 Indirect style transitioning to Direct44 Covering a topic45 Power plays46 Changing to Direct style mindset46 Improving your communication style47 Inner critique48 Recording yourself49 Talking in front of the mirror50 External critiques51 Culture and a larger vocabulary52 Tips to improve your techniques53 NLP Influence55 Cautionary tales57 Practice, practice, practice 57 Safe place58 Inner game requirements for change59