This book is intended to be used as a guide by men to find harmony in all their relationships with women, passionate or platonic. It is meant to be used as a light to shine on the darker areas of the opposite sex and is by no means an attempt to explain the feminine condition. In this book I use tango dancing as a metaphor and a laboratory to convey my observations to the reader in a way that I hope will be easily grasped. A woman is complex and she is a difficult subject to tackle.....so don't try to tackle her. She has to deal with things a man never encounters, like something called slut-shaming. She is a linear thinker while a man thinks sequentially. She's hard to please so you need to be prepared to work hard, especially if you are trying to be romantic. Men tend to think of holding a woman the same way they think of holding a football: grasp tightly and don't let anyone rip it from your hands. Newsflash WOMEN ARE NOT FOOTBALLS. It took me three years to learn how to hold a woman while dancing tango. This was not because I am a slow learner; I found that it was the norm for all men who were new to the sport. A woman is an intricate machine and she has to be handled with great care. She is not fragile but she does prefer a gentle hand. Men try too hard to understand women while women are doing everything they can just to try and understand themselves. Tango teaches us that understanding is not necessary, only that we need to listen to the music and try to move together in harmony. There are no mistakes in this dance; if we stumble, we stumble together; no one is to blame, we simply continue onward. This book is meant for men but women will like it too.