My husband was a true red-neck Southern Baptist. Since I had met him in the church, he didn't quite fit the description of an unbeliever, so biblically speaking, I was bound to him forever, or until he died. In our early marriage, he believed that a little pornography spiced up the undefiled marriage bed. He believed in calling every woman he disagreed with, especially me, everything but a child of God. He believed in hitting his wife on occasion to "keep her obedient." The only time he seemed to believe in calling on God was when he used God's name to damn everything in creation or whenever I threatened to leave him. He believed in going to the sanctuary on Sunday's; that is, the ones down by the lakeside, deep in the woods, or in front of the TV for a football game. He believed in attending church with his family only once in a blue moon. He didn't believe in women in the church speaking behind the pulpit, but he wasn't particularly fond of men speaking behind the pulpit either. He believed that God is a full-fledge Male God, with like attributes. Yes, he was a true down-home red-neck Southern Baptist. Needless to say, I am not exactly a Southern Baptist any more. I am a down-home, Southern Baptist, ordained Evangelical female Minister with a little red-neck theology of my own. I believe that an undefiled marriage bed is one that excludes all others, including those air-brushed beauties reflected on the pages of the latest Playboy magazine. I believe that sometimes a woman has to obey God, rather than man, especially when that man thinks he is god and intends to pound in that fact. I believe it is still disrespectful to curse in front of a lady and her children. I believe in taking the family to church, not just letting them get there on their own. I believe that women, like Deborah in the Old Testament, can lead an army against the heathen, if called by God. I believe that women, like the Proverbs 31 woman in the Old Testament and Lydia, the seller of purple in the New Testament, can have a home life as well as have a business career, if that is what God called them to do. Yes, I even believe that women might have something to say for God, even standing behind a pulpit, if there's not a man to do the job, or one to do the job right I believe that God, is a Spirit, with both masculine and feminine attributes and that God calls whom God wills and whoever is willing. And so, I believe I am God-called to minister to women who have been victimized by sexual assault and domestic violence and anyone else who will listen to a woman who thoroughly believes she is God-called.