The idea that you run out of steam romantically and passionately the longer you're in a relationship is based on a false notion of what love is.The real excitement isn't the surface thrill of the first phase of a relationship, but is found in depths few ever plumb. The most rapturous feelings aren't experienced in the courtship phase. They are possible only after the letdown, beyond the disappointment from which most of us never recover.When two people achieve fulfillment, it has little to do with how long they dated, communication skills, age differences, or techniques in the bedroom. It has much more to do with how well they know themselves. It has to do with whether they've come to terms with their alligator--the part of them that reacts to their partner--and found a deeper self from which to live and love.This invites you to tame your alligator, so you can relate from your deepest essence and connect with your soul.