An American educator has responded to Amy Chua's Tiger Mother with observations on Chinese parenting and a guide for raising successful and happy American children. Carol Cooke has drawn from her research and experience with children, parents, and colleagues throughout a diverse career in education to share with parents how to raise kids to be self-motivating, self-reliant, and self-disciplined. This is in sharp contrast to Chinese parenting which emphasizes external controls. This book addresses the self-esteem debate, the teaching of higher level thinking at home, ways to build a supportive, cohesive family as well as the secret to happiness. As an educator, the author focuses less on how we should treat our children and more on what we should teach them. It is a must-read for all who cringed or balked at the Tiger Mother.