There is a lot of concern today about the idea of "toxic masculinity". In a time of gender confusion, the #metoo movement, and delayed maturation of youth, are any examples of traditional manliness still worth emulating? Why yes, the timeless idea of the GENTLEMAN. This book explores that ideal as refined over millennia by Hebrew mystics, Greek philosophers, Medieval knights, Renaissance courtiers, British educators, and enlightenment-era Americans. The author describes their principles as applied in real life through a twenty-year process of trial and error. Ultimately, true gentility is a daily quest to become as strong and cultivated as possible while putting others above self-and doing it with style.