What is a "Badass"? A "Badass" is someone who says things like this: "I'm going to give you the system that is literally step-by-step and is proven to create sexual intrigue that is so compelling and so powerful that almost any girl you use it on will find their panties around their knees soaked to the max before she can even say, 'My name is....'" The above excerpt is taken from the promotional video for one of the most popular so-called "dating guides" for men, called The Tao of Badass. Notice the language - the product that is being promoted is a "system" that men can "use on" a woman or girl - to not only create instant "sexual intrigue," but an immediate sexual response. "Almost any girl you use it on," we are told, "will find their panties around their knees soaked to the max." Soaked to the max And she hasn't even had the chance to say, "My name is...." Yeah, that's Badass stuff. It's also date-rape stuff. Isn't the so-called "date-rape" drug designed to render a woman unconscious so that she is unable to defend herself against unwanted sexual contact. A very similar theme is at work in much of the contemporary "dating" and "seduction guide" literature. What is being promoted are not dating tips or dating advice but something far more sinister and dangerous - fantasies of controlling women and forcing them to act against their will. "Badass B***S***: Helping Young Men Identify and Reject Toxic Ideas About Dating, Relationships, Women and Sex" by Alan Stransman is a critical examination of the ideas and attitudes expressed in the promotional video for the Tao of Badass product - ideas and attitudes which the author finds to be toxic, infantile, demeaning and reprehensible. Alan Stransman is the author of several books including two memoirs, one of which, entitled, "So, Why Have You Never Been Married?: A Memoir of Love, Loss and Lunacy" was described by Stransman as a "love letter to the women in my life that I have loved, lost and never forgotten." A former teacher of English Literature at both the high school and university levels and a former television writer, producer and director, Stransman argues in "Badass B***S***" that the entire culture of "seducing women" is based upon a fantasy of controlling and raping women. "Women already get it," says Stransman. "It is men - and especially young men, who need to be sensitized to the kinds of demeaning and insulting ideas and attitudes towards women and sex that are rampant in our culture. My book won't change the world, but it may be a small step in the right direction."