Tolandas story is honest, raw, agonizing, and ultimately uplifting. It is a memoir of courage and hope, telling of struggle, setbacks, tragedy; and it describes an enduring relationship. She provides just the right amount of detail for each encounter and experience. Her ability to push through and find success, peace, and bliss will be an inspiration to those who are facing their own struggles, as well as anyone who has interest in and sympathy for the different lives of others. Tolanda believes her life to be synonymous to the growth stages of a butterfly. No matter how ugly life may have seemed, she was determined to become the beauti butterfli she was destined to be.