Nothing I had believed was as it seemed. This was the bottom of the pit for me. I'd endured abuse for twenty years with my first husband only to now have spent another five and a half years of my life being chewed up and spit out by another man who I believed in. The first one exited my life spewing hateful, vulgar, blaming curses as he was sinking into self-loathing and suicidal episodes only to then point the gun at me. Then, again, in my simple quest for love and partnership, my devotion was rewarded with hatred, deceitfulness and destruction. After twenty years of teaching Family Life Education and experiencing the devastation of abusive relationships, I offer real life tools to enable the reader to recognize real love, avoid the counterfeits and understand God's desire to heal us when we make poor choices.