Many feel that Arjuna wanted to be non-violent but Krishna encouraged him to be violent. Having seen relatives on the other side attachment and fear gripped Arjuna and his every fiber started shaking. Arjuna's life is violent oriented. If the other side are not strangers he don't mind hurting them or slaughtering like animals. Arjuna is deeply rooted in violence. In fact Arjuna killed thousands of people in Virat kingdom when war broke between Pandavas and Kauravas and Pandavas won the war because of valor of Arjuna. Non-violence can happen only in a person who does not see separation between his own people and others. Bhagawan Sri Ramana Maharshi treated even animals on par with humans. Had the war happened between Arjuna and the strangers Arjuna would not have been aware that he is violent and war is evil and immoral. The divine interference of Krishna made him to realize all these. That realization is an outcome of self-inquiry in the setting which existence created for Arjuna. Only in extraordinary situation what is hidden deep within us manifests. When some stranger dies we also don't feel much, but if some one who is looking us lovingly suddenly dies because unconsciously we have great so many expectations still from him.