Common wisdom has it that love is fragile, but leading psychoanalyst Stephen A. Mitchell argues that romance doesn't actually diminish in long-term relationships--it becomes increasingly dangerous. What we regard as the transience of love is really risk management. Mitchell shows that love can endure, if only we become aware of our self-destructive efforts to protect ourselves from its risks. Those who read this book will love more wisely because of it.--Andrew Solomon, author of The Noonday Demon [A] work on romance that is rich and multi-layered.--Publishers Weekly Cheerful, open, and humane--you'd definitely have wanted him as your analyst.--Judith Shulevitz, The New York Times Book Review [T]houghtful, compassionate, and profoundly optimistic.--JoAnn Gutin, Salon.com