My purpose in this book is to shed light and offer solutions to the seemingly unsolvable and destructive cycle of conflict between parents post separation. We ll look at the impact of post-separation conflict on parents and children and present concepts that may help liberate your family from the nightmare of dealing with an antagonistic co-parent. Change Your Mind will help you in three important ways. You can: 1. Become less emotionally reactive in dealing with the other parent. 2. Learn to focus more on your kids and less on negatively engaging your co-parent. 3. Learn about the nature of relationships and how your earlier experiences have conditioned you to accept unfulfilling relationships. Why co-parenting matters so much: Clinical research on divorce overwhelmingly agrees on one point: It s the conflict between parents, and not the divorce per se, that is most damaging to the children. And, I would add, also most destructive to the divorcing couple."