For Couples Committed to Building Progressive, Equitable Relationships

As a multiracial Christian couple, each with a unique ministry calling, Gail Song Bantum and Brian Bantum have learned to navigate race, family history, and gender dynamics in their twenty-plus years of marriage. In Choosing Us, they reveal the lessons, mistakes, and secrets of their marriage to inspire readers to pursue mutual flourishing in their own marriages and relationships.

"Choosing Us is the long-awaited resource for couples committed to building progressive, equitable relationships where both partners have highly demanding careers. It is not a how-to guide to replicating Gail and Brian's relationship. It is a source of wisdom for creating your own."
--Chanequa Walker-Barnes, clinical psychologist and author of I Bring the Voices of My People

"While there are countless marriage books, few focus on cultivating egalitarian unions where couples grow together and individually fulfill their created purpose. Choosing Us achieves this and equips readers to love selflessly, even when it's counterintuitive and inconvenient. This book will bless your marriage and empower you to love your partner more authentically."
--Dominique DuBois Gilliard, author of Subversive Witness and Rethinking Incarceration

"I'm so grateful to Gail and Brian for sharing their story with us. In these honest pages about marriage, choice, family, and self-discovery, you'll find room for your own stories. This book is a gift for those seeking to create flourishing marriages of mutuality."
--Sarah Bessey, author of Jesus Feminist and editor of the New York Times bestseller A Rhythm of Prayer

"Tender, true, and practical, Choosing Us is a gift. I'm so grateful to Gail and Brian for opening their stories and hearts and offering this abundance of wisdom hard-won through their many years of marriage."
--Jeff Chu, cocurator, Evolving Faith; author of Does Jesus Really Love Me? A Gay Christian's Pilgrimage in Search of God in America

"Do yourself and your marriage a favor. Read this book."
--Kathy Khang, author of Raise Your Voice: Why We Stay Silent and How to Speak Up