Marriage, marriage, marriage What is going on? Where did things go wrong? Why are more marriages ending in divorce? Even more importantly, why are people avoiding marriage altogether? What happened to us to make us want to give up on love so easily? If I could stress one important thing: A marriage has to be built. It's not something that comes prepackaged with the perfect mate in a box. Once you have established a solid and workable foundation, building from there can be successful. Not easy, but successful. There are some common sense issues in a relationship or marriage and they will present themselves time and time again until resolved or agreed upon in some manner. Some of the common stressors in a relationship are finances, disagreements about the rearing of the children, which often includes the next one: the in-laws. Then there are sexual frustrations, and, last but not least, communication problems. There are many more troubles couples may deal with, but these are the common issues. Conflicts occur when people have unrealistic expectations about how things should be communicated in a relationship. Help with your relationship doesn't only come before you are married; it is also necessary after you are married. Although Kaycee and I have been together for over twenty years, there will never come a time when we think we are too big to get help from outside sources. We still look for ways to improve communication, which will ultimately extend our relationship and bring more joy into our lives. In a relationship, there may also be fantasies about how problems and conflicts should be resolved. It doesn't matter if you are engaged, married, or dating; it's never too late to discuss these issues. Couples can come to a compromise and reach a comprehensible agreement about each of his or her beliefs and needs. However, these issues must be addressed upfront. It's urgent to the foundation of love. If you are just dating and not married yet, it's even better to be on one accord with a full understanding before a marriage takes place. We are firm believers in discussing and agreeing upon certain expectations before getting married, it makes the dissimilarities you may have...Let me change that. It makes the dissimilarities you will have down the road more easy to resolve. This book covers some of the common conflicts or issues couples may have encountered during the course of their relationship. Most of these conflicts should be resolved or worked through, before a couple gets married; however, it's never too late to change, even if a couple is already married, there is always room to grow and improve. Many times it's helpful to know that other couples are facing or have gone through similar problems that you may be having. We hope you enjoy Common Sense is Not So Common. Have a happy marriage