Getting Over Ourselves – Moving Beyond a Culture of Burnout, Loneliness, and Narcissism

Acknowledgments Introduction Part I: The Urgency to Get Over Our Selves Chapter 1: A World on Edge Paradise Burning Stressed to Death A Failed Prediction Keynes vs. Hayek The Heart and Soul of Neoliberalism Chapter 2: Lost Heroes Selfie Generation Lonely Generation Burnout Generation Lost Generation Another Failed Prediction? Chapter 3: Spirals of Change What was Enlightenment? From Enlightenment to the Dog Whisperer Tracing the Path of Human Development The Self-Sovereign Opportunist The Socialized Diplomat and Expert The Self-Authoring Achiever Toxic Achieverism Spiral to Arc Chapter 4: Wandering at an Apex The Self-Questioning Transformer Navigating the Postmodern Terrain Neoliberal Quicksand Destroy this Model Slipping through the Cracks Part II: Un-Self Help Chapter 5: Selfies and Self-Realization Guidepost #1: From Self-perfection to the Wisdom of Humility Narcissism as Mistaken Identity Default Mode Narrative vs. Minimal Self The True Meaning of Humility The Richness of Self-Realization Anchoring in the Practice of Embodiment Chapter 6: Loneliness and Oneness Guidepost #2: From Separateness to the Wisdom of Interdependence Physical Interdependence: Bodies of Multitudes Psychological Interdependence: The Resonant Brain Spiritual Interdependence: The Garment of Destiny Anchoring in the Practice of Connection Chapter 7: Burnout and Wholeheartedness Guidepost #3: From Rationality to the Wisdom of Vulnerability When Your Heart's Not in It Heart as Escape Hatch Mark of the Valkyries Real Compassion Vulnerable Confidence The Heart of Yes and No Anchoring in the Practice of Courage Chapter 8: Lost and Liberated Guidepost #4: From Progress to the Wisdom of Openness Dare to Not Know Staying with Uncertainty The Cure in Curiosity Relaxing into Insight The Mindful Brain The Modern Mindfulness Trap Anchoring in the Practice of Wonder Part III: Concluding and Beginning Chapter 9: Friends between Worlds Calling All Builders Power in Diversity, Diversity in Power Moving Slowly Listening Deeply Loving Fiercely I Don't Want to Move to Mars Room for Alternatives Heroes of Belonging Notes References Recommended Reading About the Author Index

CHRISTINA CONGLETON is a human development specialist and leadership coach. Her writing has appeared in publications including Harvard Business Review. Christina coaches in private practice with Axon Leadership and partners with consultancies to deliver coaching around the world. She lives outside Denver with her family.