Marta Felber has succeeded in writng a straightforward survival guide for anyone who has lost a spouse. She describes proactive steps for individuals to take, to work through their grief. Felber draws from her counseling background for self-healing after the death of her husband, and is all too familiar with the feelings that can linger during this time. One senses her struggles and her strength as she works through her grief and reaches a place of renewed self-identity and wholeness. While the book provides encouragement and compassion, the reader plays an important role in working through their own issues. Each chapter focuses on the most difficult issues surrounding the loss of a spouse; from sex to friends to memorials, and a space is provided in the book for the reader to jot down personal experiences. In this way, feelings are channeled into a positive and healing direction. While books on similar topics often emphasize a reactive mindset, Felber strongly believes in taking positive, specific steps to deal with loss. The book is empowering and optimistic, from someone who knows what she is writing about.