He Loves Me Not: Coping with Obsession by Elaine Numan will help any reader obsessed with another person break this painful emotional cycle and find a new bold independent sense of self The 'mechanics' of obsession work very similarly, in principle, to that of an addiction; we are 'bound or devoted' to something or someone, and a real or imagined need is not being met. This in turn causes us to go into a state of emotional withdrawal. And it's a painful state to exist in. It can cause us to act in harmful and damaging ways, both to ourselves and others. When we obsess about someone, we keep it - and them - current in our minds. But that's a cruel trick, an illusion that we create to deceive ourselves. There is part of us that doesn't want the intense pain of loss to become a part of our past; it doesn't want us to move on, because then we would have to face the fact that the relationship was really over. So, by keeping it current inside us we avoid letting it go. This book will help the reader understand what obsession is and offers a practical step-by-step self-help program like no other in its field to achieve freedom from obsession with another person.