No one sets out to be the best alcoholic they can be. So why do some people become alcoholics and others don't? Why do alcoholics feel compelled to drink? Why don't they stop? If they do stop for a while why don't they stay stopped? Why couldn't I help my husband? Why didn't counselors and 12 step programs help? If he loved us why did he keep drinking? Why did the craving for alcohol get worse over time? Excellent books and websites are discussed which offer personal health plans with a high success rate. The damage done to the brain and body by the alcohol must be repaired. If in sober times the drinker is able to see that others have become well without struggling to stay sober each day, he will be encouraged. It will not happen overnight but the seed will have been sewn. The alcoholic must want to help himself and all we can do is offer proven alternative solutions that have a good success rate as one type of treatment can never fit all.