How Can My Hate Help Me Love describes a new approach toward feelings, emotions and ingrained responses. This approach builds automatic responses, and automatic feelings that are as strong and rooted as your current automatic responses and feelings. You can add desired responses to any of your existing conditioned responses. For example, you could have a strongly rooted automatic response of feeling love, whenever you feel hate. When you automatically feel hate for someone, you will also feel love, and you can easily choose either response.