I have chosen this title for my book because it fits the characteristics of a culture that develops fear, insecurity, doubts, and dishonesty in its very intelligent, ambitious, and hardworking people. This is a culture that treats boys and girls differently developing a sense of dominance, grandiosity, Narcissism, controlling, ignorance in men and a sense of passivity, inferiority, anxiety, and paranoia in women, the symptoms in either group present only pathology. The intention of this book is by no means to be religious or political but Iranian people in essence have been religious. The religion that its very beauty has less been known. It has been transformed to develop fear of God bringing the fear of bad consequences if not followed the concepts, rules, and practices created over time by the religious leaders whose qualifications are often questionable.   It was this mentality of Iranians that was well recognized by western countries behind the revolution, well better known than Iranian themselves that helped the success of revolution in Iran. It was not the people's knowledge of who they are and who they want to choose. It is the self-identity, self-knowledge, and the self-respect that is highly missed. The culture emphasizes on the children's future social development but much less on the conscious healthy personality traits as they grow. Millions of Iranians demonstrated on the streets welcoming whom they did not know. The reaction to the outcome is now opposition demonstrating anti-religious attitudes, the religion the reality of which neither the people nor the leaders know. The current religious aggressive interpretation of Islam around the world is way far from the Spiritual Sufi mystic approach of Prophet Mohammad; the very true principle of which followed by great numerous Iranian men including Mowlana, Shams Tabrizi, Hafez. Saadi, and Baba Taher.  It was the Mowlana's book, translated from Farsi to English that sold 700,000 copies in 2013 in America.  It is the intention of this book to help people to learn about their psychology to become less confused.  My attention has been on the training and parenting issues throughout the book.  I am wondering how a confused parent can raise a "not confused" kid.