The pain and joy of writing this book have shown me that a person who suffers the loss of a marriage is a critical turning point in their life. I believe that it gives you a life lesson on how a plan in life with that beautiful person can begin with hopes and dreams for a wonderful future, then come crashing down through the effects of divorce. I also believe that no man or woman every sits down and devises a plan to get a divorce. Can you remember when you met that special person and you fell in love, and the next, here comes the proposal to marry you? You said yes and were so excited, and that unbelievable feeling of joy and happiness was on full display.