A friend once asked me to say something. I told him that Light and Absence of Light are construed as desirable or undesirable depending on one's current state. Both are powered by the same Brahman, both are willed by Him alone.
Such words are galore in the scriptures and soften the heart. However the scriptures also go on to say that troubled times are the result of one's own making, faulty living, and being a willing slave to the shad vikaras.
This is what I couldn't tell him.
However know that we all have 400 years of life, then we merge into Brahman and become one with the Divine. At the end of 400 years it doesn't matter how we played our role, if we were good actors or if we were plain dumb.
Hope a few can tune the thoughts expounded here and make them theirs, not in thought but in action. These are from a life well-lived, graciously shared, and richly blessed. In fact it is the story of most humans. The story of a sojourn to planet earth.
Om Svasti