Both pediatricians and psychiatrists today call for a return to discipline for the youth. We must set limits, they say. However, the crisis of authority is due to a lack of awareness of the parents than to a need for authoritarianism. For the first time the parents will be treated, highlighting one aspect that is often overlooked: the role of the unconscious in education. Through examples, questions and practical exercises, Isabelle Filliozat illuminate dark areas of our behavior to help educational accept, without condescension but with tenderness and respect for oneself, we are not perfect parents and have to start it.