A part of being a healthy teenager is beginning to make your own decisions. However, research indicates that some teens girls are coerced into sexual relationships. In light of this, the writer provides teenage girls with a process of how to make their own sound determinations about sex. The writer uses anecdotes, and accessible examples to paint a balanced picture of the realities of teen sexual activity. Also, the writer provides teens with the tools to navigate the various sources of influence. However, teens are left to decide whether "to be or not to be" sexually active.