"I feel optimistic and charged having just finished the book. I now have great perspective and believe that change is not only possible but can be gentle, loving and pain free..." Jennifer Lyn Browne Los Angeles photographer. * Janet Caliri likens self care to the instructions on an airplane - Put your oxygen mask on first before assisting another in an emergency. She points out, "How could you possibly be coherent and rational enough to assist another when you are not breathing enough oxygen yourself? Putting yourself first is actually a selfless act of love." It is precisely the message of her book. This book provides unparalleled techniques and exercises along with nonfictional stories. These personal accounts are from everyday people who decided that doing the same thing over and over again only gave the same result.