Does your child talk about being treated badly by his peers, and you don't know what to do? Does the school tell you to make your child stop bullying, and you don't know how? You'll find concrete answers inside this book. For years and years we have talked about bullies and victims. We've talked about them enough that the words have shaped the lives of many people. It's time for a whole new framework. No more will we speak of bullies and victims. No more will we give power to the idea that bullying is inherent in our society, or that "Kids can be cruel." This new framework throws traditional bullying theory on its head, examining bully actions and victim responses, instead of labelling children. It teaches lessons that help each and every one of us, adult and child, stop ourselves from falling into either category. Use the information and lessons to learn the information yourself. Use the activities to teach the information to your children. People who communicate well and have developed a strong self-concept, balanced thinking, balanced approaches and empathy for others are less likely to use bully actions or victim responses. It's simple. All children need the same skills. Children aren't "bullies" and they don't need to be "victims." They just need to be provided opportunity to learn. All children need the same skills. "It was a pleasure to read your book and see how well you present your valuable ideas and strategies for removing the horrible effects of bullying behavior, victim behavior, and bystander behavior. Your writing is beautiful, clear, passionate, and meaningful. If all parents, children, teachers, and administrators could be exposed to your ideas and methods, we would soon have a safer childhood experience for all our loved ones." Ralph Kilmann (Thomas Kilmann Conflict Indicator) *This book is part of a community wellness system created by Kelly Karius and Dr. Ron Graham, which includes this book for parents, lesson plans and strategies for schools, full community training (Community Immersions) and a website that supports schools, parents and community, an anonymous reporting system through TIPS Awareity and a safety app promoted by aBeanstalk. For more information about the full system, please see http: //nosuchthingasabully.com