"Congratulations: It's a lesbian." Maybe it would have been easier for Sandra McCay if the news had been broken at her daughter Lila's birth. She might even have responded with a wisecrack: "Oy vey, my daughter's gay?" After all she and her husband were open-minded, modern parents and Sandra was brought up on a diet of Jewish humour. Seventeen years later Lila announced to her parents that she was gay and Sandra's open- mindedness and wisecracking dried up. Her relationships with her daughter, husband, son and herself were about to be severely tested. Oy Vey, My Daughter's Gay is Sandra's humorous memoir of her family's big gay rollercoaster ride, from the mind numbing lows of fear, confusion and indignation to the soaring heights of laughter, love and joy. The family's bumpy ride may be over, but for Lila, almost twenty years after coming out, it continues. As a lesbian, albeit one living in the Western world, Lila still faces challenges - though there can also be occasional perks. Sandra provides the reader with fascinating insights into how Lila being gay still impacts on her daughter and herself today.