Slow Sex: The Path to Fulfilling and Sustainable Sexuality

en Limba Engleză Paperback – 26 ian 2011

While fast, hot, orgasm-driven sex can bring momentary satisfaction, in the long run it can become boring and mechanical, causing many couples to lose interest and stop making time for physical intimacy. The first step to revive a waning sex life or make a healthy one more fulfilling, says author Diana Richardson, is to make sex a conscious decision rather than an accidental encounter. Focusing on eye contact, subtle sensations, and deep breathing, Diana’s practice of slow sex awakens the body’s innate mechanism for ecstasy, unlocking the door to extraordinary realms of sensitivity, sensuality, and higher consciousness. Exploring the healing, spiritual power of slow sex, this book offers a step-by-step guide for committed couples to transform sex into a meditative, loving union of complementary energies. It explains how slow sex increases sensitivity and sexual vitality and how, because it creates and restores love, slow sex is loving sex. With a focus on coolness rather than heat, this practice provides couples a way to reach a shared meditative state and use it as a vehicle to achieve higher consciousness. Illustrating different positions for eye contact, deep sustained penetration, and soft penetration, this book reveals that sex truly can be sustainable and enjoyable well into old age.

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Specificații

ISBN-13: 9781594773679
ISBN-10: 159477367X
Pagini: 176
Ilustrații: 14 b&w illustrations
Dimensiuni: 152 x 229 x 15 mm
Greutate: 0.3 kg
Editura: Inner Traditions/Bear & Company
Colecția Destiny Books

Notă biografică

Diana Richardson is the author of Tantric Orgasm for Women and The Heart of Tantric Sex and the coauthor of Tantric Sex for Men. A disciple of tantric master Osho, she is a teacher and practitioner of holistic body therapies. Along with her husband, Michael, she has been teaching weeklong “Making Love” Retreats for Couples since 1993. She lives in Switzerland.

Extras

Chapter 10

Your Personal Slow Sex Practice

Slow sex is a journey in which each and every day counts. It’s a slow journey that can extend over many years and into old age. That is how it is turning out for me, and I can definitely say that I did not plan for it to be this way. Very gradually one thing led to another through curiosity and practice. Practice itself will herald change and transformation. Not just thinking about it.

Below you will find the components of the slow sex practice defined as well as my suggestions for how to get started on your own exploration in order to create your own practice. At any time the guidelines below can be changed and you can improvise. The vital thing is to take it slow and to avoid having great expectations. Expectation makes us consider what is not happening and stands in our way of perceiving what actually is.

What kind of practice is slow sex? Slow sex can best be described as a sustainable practice in which awareness is brought into the body--and into the genitals. We discover how tojust bepresent in sex instead ofactively doingin sex. When we make love with sensitivity and slowness, sex transforms itself into a meditation.

The wordmeditationimplies full experience of the present moment. Any meditation needs to be given time and space and practice in order for the practitioner to feel the benefits, though you are quite likely to feel some pleasing results, even the first time you try it. Slow sex makes it possible for the penis and vagina to develop their own language, to exchange energy according to their dynamic and receptive qualities. It’s a practice that takes time to master, like any other sustainable practice. But practice makes perfect.

Special Technique vs. Shift in Consciousness

Slowing down in sex is based on a shift in consciousness, where the emphasis is onhowyou do something, not onwhatyou do. To become slow in sex requires a mental reorientation, a new way of looking at it in which you drop the preconceived ideas and expectations that you have about sex. Slow sex is not a technique in that it is not something that you mustdo, but rather something you become.

Aliveness, Vitality, and Sexual Arousal

Slow sex is a style of sex thatdoes not requiresexual arousal. It can be arousing at times, no doubt about it, but it does not depend on becoming aroused or excited at the outset. Instead, it requires aliveness, vitality, and presence. Naturally there will be moments when things will get a bit hotter, but the level of arousal (eros) is basically monitored and kept cool. At other times, of course, we may get caught up in the excitement and take ourselves to the peak climax, but these happenings are all part of the experimentation. The significant thing is to do whatever you do with awareness. Nothing is wrong with orgasm as such; it’s just the habit of running toward it, and the tension that we build up to achieve it, that is being challenged through awareness and slowness.

The great thing about slow sex is that does not take much energy; you can do it when you are not feeling fresh. It is more a question of whether you can hold the awareness or not.

How to Set Up the Slow Sex Practice

The best way to move toward a successful slow sex practice is to set aside specific times to make love, and to make love as often as is conceivably possible. Consciously create the space needed for this by putting sex high on the list of things to do, just as we prioritize our other activities. It is suggested that you make a date, an appointment, to make love. Write down SS alongside the agreed time in your weekly agenda. Make the appropriate arrangements for your children and switch off your telephones so that you can be left in tranquility and peace.

Giving yourselves an open space naturally leads to a deeper level of relaxation, awareness, and sensitivity. We are more available; sex is not happening by accident or by habit, but as a conscious choice and decision. Putting intention behind the meeting naturally elevates the experience. It’s perhaps going to feel awkward or clinical at first when you start meeting each other in this somewhat organized way, but any initial shyness or insecurity is quite natural and will soon pass. In making a date for sex we create the opportunity to explore who we really are.

Sustaining the Sexual Encounter

Your sexual connection will be sustained by staying alert, aware, and curious. Use any and all of the metabolic enhancers--such as awareness, rhythm, relaxation, staying present--to keep the sexual encounter’s intensity alive. I have always called these enhancers the Love Keys, which include breath, soft eye contact, holding the attention in the body, scanning the body, and relaxing, all the things that allow you to become present in your body and present to the situation.

While slow sex is especially fitting for people who are in long-term committed relationships with a stable partner who can be available to make love over an extended period of time, I believe that human beings are designed by nature to be slow. So in reality, slow sex is for one and all. It is available toanyonewho is willing to explore taking sex more slowly. Any person who slows down, is likely to feel the heightened qualities that slowness brings into the exchange.

Cuprins

Acknowledgments

Introduction: Curing the Speed Disease

1 Slow Sex: A Physical and Spiritual Revolution

2 The Sexual Power of Relaxation

3 The Sexual Power of Awareness

4 The Sexual Power of Quality

5 The Sexual Power of Rhythm

6 The Sexual Power of Pleasure

7 The Sexual Power of Thought

8 The Sexual Power of the Sacred

9 The Sexual Power of the Story

10 Your Personal Slow Sex Practice

Appendix: True Male and Female Qualities versus Conditioned Distortions

Books and Resources

Recenzii

“. . . Richardson offers step-by-step guidance, and even former skeptics swear by it's value--physical, emotional and spiritual. We know sex is important to our pleasure; this kind is also essential to our well-being.”
“How rare it is for a book to appear about sex and sensuality with a truly fresh and innovative approach. Diana Richardson has crafted a masterpiece that is warm, evocative, timely, and accessible to everyone. Her wise and inviting style will welcome you into a fascinating new world where your experience of sexuality will be forever changed. If you’ve wanted just one book that could give you the most simple and powerful access into the ancient, beautiful world of Tantra, here it is . . .”
“. . . Slow Sex is making tantric concepts truly accessible to people with no experience with (or inclination to study) eastern philosophy and practices. By using simple language, with this broader audience of readers is comfortable with, and by giving readers permission to explore at their own pace, she opens the door for the exploration of diverse sexual experiences which will enhance and nourish body, mind, and spirit.”
“Although couples of all ages will benefit from the book, it's a must-have for older couples looking for a sustainable activity that will benefit their relationships.”

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