Alexandra Nouri has your back. She knows what it's like to love a narcissist, or even just your garden-variety self-absorbed jerk. She's here to accompany you with a supportive voice (except when she's ribbing and encouraging you to hang on to your narcissist, so he doesn't bother her and her friends ), as you try to wade through the confusion, the devaluation, and the wildly mixed messages that is the narcissist's daily bread. 12 chapters include "So. You're in Love With a Narcissist.," where she outlines narcissistic traits in real-life terms, so you can see more plainly what narcissists do and why. "The Narcissist as Editor-in-Chief" discusses the ease with which people with personality disorders lie, and "The Narcissist as Chubby Checker" goes into the word-twisty they play -- statements and claims that are half-lie, half-confusion, and always designed to trump you. "Passion Aggression" describes the passive aggression that they pretend is so benign, but it hurts so much. Quotes are included. Finally, the later chapters cover what Alexandra Nouri really is about: Leaving the narcissist, and moving on to live the hopeful, loving, no-BS life you deserve. She knows it's not easy, that a break-up with a narcissist is no ordinary break-up, and she validates, supports and guides you along the way.