The Essential Guide to surviving the death of a loved one When a loved-one dies, we don't know how to feel, we don't know how to react and we don't know how to behave. "Ten Things You Need To Know About Dealing With Death" is a quick and easy description of ten simple "Rules" that guide you through the grieving process, in the immediate aftermath of a death, in a practical and sometimes humorous way. Legal Stuff Dedication Introduction 1. If you didn't make it happen, it's not your fault. 2. You are the most important person, now. 3. Don't feel bad about feeling bad. 4. Not everything that is sad is bad. 5. There is no timetable. 6. The stages of grief don't happen in a tidy sequence. 7. There is no time limit to grief. 8. It's OK to think hard thoughts. 9. It's OK to be relieved. 10. Keep memories not reminders. For Roy.