Divorcing someone who never wanted to be married to you in the first place is like being shot in the face and in the heart, at point-blank range, with Die Spouse Die (DSP) bullets. I've never met anyone who got married, started a family, and said, "I sure can't wait to be divorced When I grow up, I'll get to pay a lot of fees to be smack-dab in the middle a nasty divorce Nothing beats losing my home, uprooting my children, and spending years paying off joint marital debt. Oh yeah, next to Christmas, my divorce is going to be great " On the other hand, when loving and committed spouses become allergic to their own marriages and families, they become the embodiment of anti-spouses. The very thought of our loving husbands or wives being married to us makes them break out in a rash. Regrettably, the only cure that will help our once adoring spouses is 1,500 mg of divoricillin  The pain, lessons, and eventual victories that stem from this fictional divorce are gender neutral What happened to a wife could easily happen to a husband. You can get hurt whether you are male or female, short or tall, poor or rich. Divorce can be a nightmare no matter who is telling the story