Upper-middle class women are in the throes of the female midlife crisis, as political, social, economic, career, and parenting pressures collide. By centering on our own healing and self-care, white women have largely ignored the needs of other women, reinforcing traditional patriarchal values and culture.


Part memoir, part research project, The Deal of the Dollhouse: How Toxic Self-Care Nearly Destroyed Me strives to help progressive, college-educated, white women, feel safe as they start to understand their historical and present-day roles in an often unjust society, without feeling paralyzed, overwhelmed, or judged.


If you...

• Ever feel guilty about taking your kids to Disneyworld because you just saw another shocking statistic about food insecurity in your child's elementary school.
• Fall into bed exhausted about work, worried about the state of the world, wondering if you ever should have brought kids into this mess.
• Are overwhelmed by the conflicting messages of "join us and fight the patriarchy" and "sit down, white lady."
• Can remember vividly the last time you were a "Karen."

Dollhouse is the book you'll turn to for answers and inspiration as you start the journey of exploring your privilege, aligning your values, and deeply understanding your story to build a shame-free path to allyship and community.