The secret to enlightenment and great sex is revealed to be one and the same in this groundbreaking manual for adventurous lovers. David Deida was trained for decades in the art of spiritual and sexual awakening. Now he presents the ultimate collection of skills for opening to the physical, emotional, and spiritual rewards of intimate embrace. In paperback for the first time, The Enlightened Sex Manual teaches you how to transform simple "skin friction" into the depths and embodiment of ecstasy, how to develop sexual abilities as gifts of heart rapture and bodily surrender, how to achieve the principal types of orgasm-and all their varieties-and much more. For men and women, singles and couples of every sexual orientation, "The Enlightened Sex Manual "provides a complete program for sustaining whole-body recognition of love s light in the wild play of sexuality. Contents Part One: EnergyUse your breath to arouse and relax your genitalsRestrain your nervous systemUse your tongue like a circuit breakerUse your eyes to direct energyPart Two: OrgasmBypass ejaculations for greater pleasureRetrain the addiction to ejaculationCurb fidgetsGood ejaculations liberate energyOptimize ejaculations to maximize life s depthEjaculate when the body needs toUnderstand the three types of women s orgasmsEnjoy clitoral orgasmsDelight in vaginal orgasmsSurrender in the bliss of cervical orgasmsChoose when to orgasmAllow orgasmic variationPart Three: VariationsStimulate the sex pathsBite, slap, and pinch to move sexual energyMove energy through the lips, nipples, and genitalsStimulate the anusDo the feetThrust both deep and shallowConnect the cervix and penisVibrate quickly to increase and smooth out energyRelax your body and breathMake love for at least forty-five minutes Part Four: Sexual Energy ExercisesBreathe sexual energy in a circleBreathe genital energy upBreathe energy down the frontSeal your pelvic floorLock energy in your soft parts Praise David Deida explains the heart and soul of women to men. As a woman, I ve never felt so understood and validated. David s work is a key to helping men and women alike take their relationships one step further. Finally, a clear and brilliant guide to unraveling the mystery of relationships. Marci Shimoff, Co-author of "Chicken Soup for a Woman s Soul" Being able to reach and live integrated sex, relationship, and transcendence is no easy task. It requires immense courage, wisdom, and above all, fearless loving. In Deida, all this gets included in one radical teaching. You ll learn how to open your heart and integrate the need to sleep with every attractive woman you see, deal appropriately with a woman s emotional chaos, give your gift to the word and lover, and finally transcend the whole lot by including it all. Vijay Rana, "The Watkins Review" Deida brilliantly lays bare the hidden psychology of feminine and masculine and offers clear instructions for tapping into our deepest core and achieving true harmony through sexual intimacy. I feel that Deida has reached a new level of poetic genius in his writing, and his understanding of feminine psychology astounds me. Miranda Shaw, PhD, Author of "Passionate Enlightenment: Women in Tantric Buddhism" David Deida s teachings on this central human concern, sexuality, emanate from a deeply trustworthy source. He has undergone his own rigorous training and practice, which manifests in precise, gentle, and thorough teachings. Many spiritual traditions, including Zen, have excluded or marginalized the sexual experience. David s work fills this gap, and gives us a mature approach for bringing the energetic, emotional, and physical experience of sex into our life and practice. And like Zen, the fruition of David s work is openness, compassion, and love. Genpo Roshi, Author of "The Eye Never Sleeps""