Is chivalry close to being extinct? Author Roger Smith thinks so. And "The Gentlemen's Guide: A Quick Reference" is the solution In defining "gentleman," Smith does not cater to the definition of a tuxedo-wearing, Ferrari-driving, multilingual man ala James Bond. Instead, he believes a gentleman is defined in terms of behavior that is courteous, mannerly, and poised. Smith believes the average man can easily increase his manners by making simple changes. Excellent manners and thoughtfulness have virtually disappeared in our current culture. But it doesn't take much for a man to restore himself to the good graces of his significant other Among the suggestions Smith has compiled to help men improve their relationships with wives or girlfriends are the following: Hold her-that's one thing your arms are for Make her lunch-she may not like a sardine and guacamole sandwich, but it's the thought that counts Walk with her-remember it's together time, not a race Kiss her-do not burp before or after Take this opportunity to find the gentleman inside-your other half will thank you for it