...an impressive debut from a young writer... - Tracy Kidder, Strength in What Remains
Hold the phone, kick down the door, and yell from the rooftops of all those American blue-collar towns that give birth to so many of our artists:
a new one is among us, and his name is Anthony D'Aries. - Andre Dubus III, Townie: A Memoir
The Language of Men isn't just a beautifully written memoir about a Vietnam vet father and the complicated legacy he leaves to his son; it's also a disturbing, brutally honest, darkly funny meditation on masculinity, violence, and sexuality. Anthony D'Aries is a writer to watch. - Tom Perotta, The Leftovers
Growing up in a working class town on Long Island, Anthony D Aries watched his father rebuild muscle cars, groove to rock n roll, slice meat at the local deli, and bring roadkill back to life in his taxidermy workshop. Anthony, the impressionable younger son, loved his father. Emulated him.
Acted out visceral scenes from Taxi Driver and Raging Bull with his dad and older brother. Soaked up his father's lurid wartime tales the hooch and the hos in Nam.
The Language of Men begins with Anthony s search to learn who his father was. When he travels to Vietnam with his wife, Vanessa, who has a job leading health and anatomy classes for sex workers in Ho Chi Minh City, Anthony isn t sure what he will find. Visiting Long Binh where his father was stationed, then seeing his relationship with Vanessa begin to deteriorate, Anthony arrives at realizations that begin to explain his father s life, as well as his own troubling behaviors. Reluctant to deny or admit complicity, Anthony returns home to look for answers in his past.
What does it cost to speak the language of men? In prose that sings sometimes defiantly, sometimes sadly, but always eloquently Anthony D Aries transports us to the crossroads of gender and history, then leads us through the unsettling terrain that creates fathers, sons, brothers, and husbands. 2012 ForeWord Book of the Year, 1st Place (Autobiography & Memoir) Silver IPPY (Memoir)