Simply slow down stop and look, not at the story of the mind or the experiences it creates, but all the way through to see from where this mind comes, from where these beliefs come, from where this character comes. Now you are left in the absolute unknown, in the mystery, knowing nothing. A taste of this unknown is a taste of something more beautiful and more passionate than anything you could ever imagine. When this is done, all your supposed problems vanish and then the true lover will carry you home.