THE YES GAME Is Not A Game It's A Solution Rape - Sexual Harassment - Abuse After hearing the disturbing news reports of date rape and other sexual abuses on campuses, and the rather casual way universities and the authorities continue to turn a blind eye to these horrendous offenses, I wondered how I might apply my area of Expertise Cognitive Skills Training for a positive solution. In one news report, an advocate for women who was being interviewed stated, "Men need to understand that NO means NO and that ONLY YES can mean YES." She went on to say, "I realize that asking ahead of time, "Can I have sex with you," isn't very sexy." My first response was, "Wow, you got that right. That is most definitely Not Sexy." But the seed had been planted and I started thinking how to bring it to fruition. I knew what I could bring to the table. The problem would be getting COMPLIANCE. As Long as Men Think of Sex as Conquest - They Will Continue to Think of Women as Prey. I postulated, men would need An Incredibly Big PayOff in order to convince them to give up their age old attitudes of entitlement and behavior where women are concerned. Not the least of which might be plying women with alcohol & drugs or plain old Intimidation & Force. Objective # 1: Find A Sexy Way of Asking for Sex. Objective # 2: Find A Big PayOff - To Get Everyone to COMPLY. For Women I found that if a man asked certain easy questions, before making even small advances in intimacy, that will put her at ease and honor her. And It's Sexy Too. # 1 This gives women the safe, anxiety free environment they need to build Self-Confidence & The Sense of Empowerment and Control they need to be more Sexually Responsive. # 2 For Men An Approach System that defines permissive boundaries without limiting sex. # 1 Then the extra benefit of having a more responsive, engaging partner WHILE The Yes Game enables the men to develop their own Heightened Sexual Responses. # 2 And There It Is The Big PayOff Making it Worth Doing the Right Thing. Small Permissions That Lead to Heightened Sexual Experiences. We Then Modified Our Intimacy Enhancement Programs Into The Yes Game.