You're the Cake: The Guy's the Frosting shares real stories of some painful, hysterical, and even frightening dating mistakes the author made as well as the hard-won lessons she learned before finding the most delicious "frosting" with her second husband. It's her gift to single women of any age to help them avoid the same mistakes she made and to realize that the most important ingredient in finding happiness is having a healthy relationship with yourself. We're all products of our childhood and family experiences, but dating is not about finding someone to rescue you from past traumas or low self-esteem. The answer to a happy and successful life is not in another person. The answer is to love yourself unconditionally to attract the love you deserve.