This book is all about self-empowerment. This has nothing to do with control or manipulation of others, it is all about developing the attitude "I am responsible for everything that happens to me in my life" as opposed to "I am the victim of my circumstances over which I have no control". But be careful-taking responsibility if not to be confused with "everything bad that happens to me is my own fault" since blame never gets us anywhere, Response-ability means the ability to respond, so even if you can't change a particular event, you can certainly change the way that you respond to it.