Hope, Forgiveness, and Positive Psychology in Couple Therapy
Autor Everett L. Worthington Jr., Jennifer S. Ripleyen Limba Engleză Paperback – 22 oct 2024
Drawing from positive psychology, virtue theory, and forgiveness theory, the book describes how therapists can design a hope-focused treatment to promote intimacy, help couples communicate and resolve disagreements, strengthen emotional bonds, build trust, guide forgiveness, and encourage reconciliation. This book takes the therapist from assessing couples, to designing initial treatment plans, intervening in sessions, and facilitating termination. Focusing on communication training and conflict resolution, Worthington and Ripley share over 100 evidence-based techniques, case studies, and interventions to illustrate how to help couples effectively. Examples incorporate complex issues of race and sexuality, as well as values such as religion and politics. This practical guide arms therapists with a strategy to enrich their practice of couple therapy, equips them with practical techniques, and helps them promote forgiveness and reconciliation when couples seek it.
This book is an invaluable resource for beginning counselors, graduate students, and practicing marriage and family therapists.
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Specificații
ISBN-13: 9780367443849
ISBN-10: 0367443848
Pagini: 328
Ilustrații: 36
Dimensiuni: 152 x 229 x 21 mm
Greutate: 0.61 kg
Ediția:1
Editura: Taylor & Francis
Colecția Routledge
Locul publicării:Oxford, United Kingdom
ISBN-10: 0367443848
Pagini: 328
Ilustrații: 36
Dimensiuni: 152 x 229 x 21 mm
Greutate: 0.61 kg
Ediția:1
Editura: Taylor & Francis
Colecția Routledge
Locul publicării:Oxford, United Kingdom
Public țintă
Postgraduate, Professional, and Professional Practice & DevelopmentCuprins
CHAPTER 1 ADMITTING TO THE FRAGILITY OF COUPLE THERAPY: HOLD ONTO HOPE
PART 1 FRAMING INTERVENTIONS
CHAPTER 2 INTRODUCING THE THEORY: USE FIVE STEPS IN OPERATION HOPE
Figure 2-1: Operation Hope: The Grand Strategy for the Hope-Focused Couple Approach.
Intervention 2-1: Ten Techniques of the HFCA
CHAPTER 3 PROMOTING HOPE: UNCOVER DIFFERENT KINDS OF HOPE
CHAPTER 4 EMPLOY STRATEGIES FOR LOVE: HELP COUPLES DO THE WORK AND KEEP THE FAITH
Intervention 4-1: Education about Couple Therapy
Intervention 4-2: Get This Across—In Couple Therapy, Work Is Essential
Intervention 4-3: You Just Have to Do a Week of Work
Intervention 4-4: Great Homework Interventions
Intervention 4-5: Reflective Processing Worksheet
Intervention 4-6: Love that Values the Partner in Action
CHAPTER 5 USING THE THERAPY TECHNIQUES: MAKE CHANGE SENSIBLE
Intervention 5-1: How to Do Sensible Scaling with a Couple
CHAPTER 6 STRENGTHING THE EMOTIONAL BOND: FOCUS ON WHAT REALLY MAKES COUPLES SATISFIED AND STABLE
Figure 6-1: Practical Recipe of Actions to Build Intimacy
Intervention 6-1: CLEAVE to Bond
Intervention 6-2: Tell Me a Secret—Share Your Dreams
Intervention 6-3: Attend to the Emotional Cues
CHAPTER 7 APPLYING PRINCIPLES OF COUPLE THERAPY: FIND THE ESSENCE OF HELPING COUPLES CHANGE
PART 2 INTERACTING HOPEFULLY
CHAPTER 8 BUILDING HOPE WITH HOPE: HANDLING OUR PROBLEMS EFFECTIVELY
Intervention 8-1: The Alligator Intervention (Or How to Respond When Your Partner Snaps)
CHAPTER 9 UNDERSTANDING THE COUPLE’S PROBLEMS AND GOALS: USE ASSESSMENT EFFICIENTLY
Figure 9-1: The Couple Improvement Plan
Table 9-1: Questionnaires and Scales for Clinical Assessment of Couples
Intervention 9-1: Educate Couples about Preferences
Intervention 9-2: Pre-Meeting Assessment Questionnaires
Intervention 9-3: The Dyadic Interview 10 Questions
Intervention 9-4: Assigning Homework and the Couple Improvement Plan Worksheet
Intervention 9-5: Detect Red Flags
CHAPTER 10 PROVIDING FEEDBACK TO THE COUPLE: ENGAGE COUPLES IN PLANNING THEIR TREATMENT
Figure 10-1: Graphic Display of Carl and Sarah’s Ratings of Elements of Their Relationship
Intervention 10-1: The Assessment Report
Intervention 10-2: Feedback Report Example
Intervention 10-3: Example Treatment Plan for Couple Therapy
CHAPTER 11 SETTING UP ROUTINE OUTCOME MONITORING: PUT ASSESSMENT TO WORK
Figure 11-1: H-ROM Questionnaire
Figure 11-2: Display of ROM Results for Each Partner
Intervention 11-1: Routine Outcome Monitoring (ROM) Assessment
CHAPTER 12 USING COUPLE THERAPY METHODS FOR HOPE: INSTILL HOPE FOR THE HOLY, HURTING, AND HEALTHY
Figure 12-1: Pain-Defense-Offense Pattern (adapted from Sells & Yarhouse, 2011)
Intervention 12-1: The Video Review
Intervention 12-2: Stopping Negative Reciprocity
CHAPTER 13 HELPING RESOLVE CONFLICTS: FIND MUTUAL INTERESTS BENEATH SURFACE FIGHTS
Figure 13-1: Couple Conflict: Process and Intervention
Figure 13-2: The LOVE Acronym
Intervention 13-1: LOVE—Three Interventions in One
Intervention 13-2: Five-Minute Date
Intervention 13-3: Simple Listen and Repeat, Warmly
Intervention 13-4: Time Out
Intervention 13-5: Expressing Valuing Love
Intervention 13-6: Experiencing and Expressing Gratitude
Intervention 13-7: Doubt Your Doubt
Intervention 13-8: Diffusing a Power Struggle by Setting up a Win-Win and Inviting Partners to Honor Each Other’s Valued Choices
Intervention 13-9: Values Card Sort
Intervention 13-10: Process the Conflict
Intervention 13-11: Begin a Hard Discussion with a Soft Start-Up
Intervention 13-12: Slimy Pit Demonstration
CHAPTER 14 PROMOTING BETTER COMMUNICATION: FACILITATE WHAT THEY ALREADY KNOW
Figure 14-1: Practice Affirming and Active Responding Instead of Discounting and Disengaging
Intervention 14-1: Love Bank
Intervention 14-2: Love Bank Spin-Offs
Intervention 14-3: Making Affirming Active Responses Using the Speaker-Listener Technique
Intervention 14-4: Leveling and Editing
Intervention 14-5: Love Busters
Intervention 14-6: TANGO and TANGO-E
Intervention 14-7: A Coke and a Smile
PART 3 BONDING
CHAPTER 15 REVEALING THE SECRET TO A HAPPY ROMANTIC RELATIONSHIP: HELP BUILD A MORE INTIMATE EMOTIONAL BOND
Figure 15-1: Sternberg’s Eight Types of Love Derived from Being High or Low in Passion, Intimacy, and Commitment
Figure 15-2: Intimacy Thermometers (Ripley & Worthington, 2014)
Intervention 15-1: Plot the Couple’s Sternberg Love-Triangle History
Intervention 15-2: Conceptualization of Three Types of Power
Intervention 15-3: Assess and Process the Intimacy Thermometers
Intervention 15-4: Graphing Closeness throughout the Relationship
Intervention 15-5: Five Love Languages to Increase Emotional Bonds
Intervention 15-6: A Sculpting Intervention to Deepen Intimacy over Time
Intervention 15-7: Make Dreams and Hopes Solid
CHAPTER 16 ENCOURAGING DEEP EMOTIONAL SHARING: HELP PARTNERS SHARE POSITIVE AND NEGATIVE EMOTIONS
Intervention 16-1: Romantic Dates and Special Times to Enhance Emotional Intimacy
Intervention 16-2: Three Ways to Enhance Sexual Intimacy
Intervention 16-3: Intellectual and Recreational Intimacy
Intervention 16-4: Prompt Spiritual and Romantic Reflection
Intervention 16-5: Assessing Spirituality with Couples
Intervention 16-6: Couple Prayer
Intervention 16-7: Process Ruptures in the Therapeutic Alliance
CHAPTER 17 BALANCING INTIMACY AND CLOSENESS WITH CO-ACTION AND ALONE-TIME: FIND THE RIGHT MIX FOR EACH COUPLE
Figure 17-1: The Distancer-Pursuer Couple Play-List. Topics that Trigger the Pattern of Requesting Interaction Followed by Withdrawal Followed by Elevated Intensity of Requests, etc.
Intervention 17-1: Bonding Day Activity
Intervention 17-2: A Used-Friendly Manual to Love Me
Intervention 17-3: Distancer-Pursuer Playlist
Intervention 17-4: Influencing Well and Accepting Influence
Intervention 17-5: Healthy Paths to Intimacy and Independence
CHAPTER 18 DISCERRNING ATTACHMENT STYLES AND EMOTIONAL BONDS: FIND EFFECTS OF EARLY RELATIONSHIPS AND OF ADULT ONES
Intervention 18-1: Understand Attachment by Creating Genograms Focused on Attachment Styles
Intervention 18-2: Attachment Styles in Their Close Relationships
Intervention 18-3: Two Attachment Styles, One Emotional Bod
Intervention 18-4: Predict Backsliding to Avoid It
Intervention 18-5: Address Defenses against Vulnerability
Intervention 18-6: Solidify Intimacy by Renewing Vows
Intervention 18-7: Solidify Intimacy by Creating a Sojourning Narrative
PART 4 FORGIVING
CHAPTER 19 DEALING WITH HURTS AND INJUSTICES: REDUCE THE INJUSTICE GAP TO MAKE FORGIVENESS EASIER
Figure 19-1: Radical Acceptance
Intervention 19-1: See with Magic Eyes Fable
Intervention 19-2: Questions to Ponder as You Begin to Address Past Hurts with the Couple
Intervention 19-3: Stopping Rumination
Intervention 19-4: Tolerate Offensive Behavior without Blowing Up
Intervention 19-5: Forbear Instead of Seeking Revenge (Or Even Contemplating It)
Intervention 19-6: Offer Restitution
Intervention 19-7: Grace Ain’t Just for Supper
Intervention 19-8: Radical Acceptance
Intervention 19-9: Transform Emotion with Emotion
CHAPTER 20 USING AN EFFECTIVE FORGIVENESS INTERVENTION: TEACH FIVE STEPS TO REACH FORGIVENESS
Intervention 20-1: Issues to Consider as You Start a REACH Forgiveness Group Program for Your Practice
Intervention 20-2: Point-by-Point Summary of the REACH Forgiveness Protocol
Intervention 20-3: Research Supporting REACH Forgiveness Treatment
CHAPTER 21 USING REACH FORGIVENESS IN SESSION: WALK COUPLES THROUGH IT
Figure 21-1: Four Interventions (21-1, 21-2, 21-3, and 21-4) to Promote Movement toward Reconciliation
Intervention 21-1: Choose Four Offenses to Work on
Intervention 21-2: Introduce the REACH Forgiveness Model
Intervention 21-3: Practice Confession and Apology
Intervention 21-4: Apply REACH
Intervention 21-5: Work through a Do-It-Yourself Workbook on REACH Forgiveness
Intervention 21-6: Have Partners Reflect on Their Learning
Intervention 21-7: Six Steps to Decisional Plus Emotional Self-Forgiveness
Intervention 21-8: An Intervention to Forgive Oneself Due to Non-Moral Self-Condemnation
Intervention 21-9: Working with One Partner on Curbing Their Excessive Self-Condemnation
PART 5 RECONCILING AND REBUILDING
CHAPTER 22 TEACHING FORGIVENESS AND RECONCILIATION: GUIDE PARTNERS THROUGH FOUR STEPS TO SET PARTNERS FREE
Figure 22-1: Four Steps to Forgiveness and Reconciliation through Experiencing Empathy (FREE)
Intervention 22-1: Idea #1 for Preparing Couples to Forgive & Reconcile—Consider Wartime
Intervention 22-2: Idea #2 for Preparing Couples to Reconcile—Why Forgive & Reconcile?
Intervention 22-3: Idea #3 for Preparing Couples to Reconcile—Savor Good Forgiveness
CHAPTER 23 MAKING DECISIONS AND DISCUSSING HURTS: DISCERN WHAT CAN AND CAN’T BE REDEEMED
Figure 23-1: Prepare for FREE
Intervention 23-1: Consider Memory of Past Conflicts with an Analogy
Intervention 23-2: It’s Not Only What I Did, But What My Partner Perceived I Did
Intervention 23-3: Psychoeducation about Processing Past Offenses
Intervention 23-4: Dan Wile’s (1988, 2008) Empathic Responding
Intervention 23-5: Preparing for Forgiveness and Reconciliation with Empathy
Intervention 23-6: Preparing for Forgiveness and Reconciliation with Emotional Softening
Intervention 23-7: Preparing for Forgiveness and Reconciliation through Regulating Emotions
Intervention 23-8: Address Resistance, Fuzzy Definitions, and Fears of Forgiveness
Intervention 23-9: Write Letters of Apology as Homework
Intervention 23-10: Discuss Potential Responses to Being Asked to Forgive the Wrongdoer
Intervention 23-11: CONFESS Acronym
CHAPTER 24 REPAIRING DAMAGE TO THE RELATIONSHIP: FIX WHAT CAN BE FIXED
Intervention 24-1: Scaling the Injustice Gap
Intervention 24-2: Responding to Criticism Non-Defensively (In Session)
Intervention 24-3: Principles to Address Unresolvable Problems
CHAPTER 25 REBUILDING DEVOTION WITH FREE: CREATE NEW STRUCTURES TO REPLACE MISSING ONES
Intervention 25-1: For Marriage War-Survivors, Read about Coventry and Dresden
Intervention 25-2: Increase Devotion through Gratitude Interventions
Intervention 25-3: Motivate Couples to Use Regular Checks on Functioning
Intervention 25-4: Discuss Annual Relationship Check-Up Questions
Intervention 25-5: Use the CARE Measure to Have Couples Self-Evaluate the Relationship
PART 6 REFORGING TRUST
CHAPTER 26 REFORGING TRUST: LET COUPLES KNOW THAT IT TAKES LONGER THAN THEY THINK IT WILL
Figure 26-1: Trust
Intervention 26-1: Illuminate the Processes of Trust-Busting and Trust-Building
Intervention 26-2: Use Slow-Building Trust to Deal with Deep Hurts
Intervention 26-3: ATTUNE, An Acronym for Handling a Betrayal
Intervention 26-4: It’s Happening Again
Intervention 26-5: Partner Exercise in Building Trust
Intervention 26-6: The Trust Bank
CHAPTER 27 PREPARING FOR FUTURE RUPTURES: ALERT PARTNERS TO INEVITABLE FUTURE RUPTURES
Intervention 27-1: Anticipate Ruptures by Assessing Change throughout Treatment
Intervention 27-2: Anticipate Ruptures by Staying Calm in the Face of Resistances and Roadblocks
Intervention 27-3: Anticipate Ruptures When Working with Partners with a Trauma History
Intervention 27-4: Anticipate Ruptures by Monitoring the Therapist’s Own Negative Reactions
CHAPTER 28 SOLIDIFYING GAINS AT TERMINATION: PROMOTE REFLECTIVE FUTURE PLANNING IN LIGHT OF REVIEW OF THERAPY
Figure 28-1: Figure in Termination Report Reporting the Results of Relationship Closeness Before Therapy (darker pillars) and After Therapy (lighter pillars)
Intervention 28-1: Three Questions at Termination
Intervention 28-2: An Example of a Final Termination Report
Intervention 28-3: Joshua Memorial or Graduation Ceremony
Intervention 28-4: Post-Therapy Assessment
CHAPTER 29 REACHING A PRODUCTIVE CONCLUSION: HEED THESE TAKE-HOME MESSAGES
PART 1 FRAMING INTERVENTIONS
CHAPTER 2 INTRODUCING THE THEORY: USE FIVE STEPS IN OPERATION HOPE
Figure 2-1: Operation Hope: The Grand Strategy for the Hope-Focused Couple Approach.
Intervention 2-1: Ten Techniques of the HFCA
CHAPTER 3 PROMOTING HOPE: UNCOVER DIFFERENT KINDS OF HOPE
CHAPTER 4 EMPLOY STRATEGIES FOR LOVE: HELP COUPLES DO THE WORK AND KEEP THE FAITH
Intervention 4-1: Education about Couple Therapy
Intervention 4-2: Get This Across—In Couple Therapy, Work Is Essential
Intervention 4-3: You Just Have to Do a Week of Work
Intervention 4-4: Great Homework Interventions
Intervention 4-5: Reflective Processing Worksheet
Intervention 4-6: Love that Values the Partner in Action
CHAPTER 5 USING THE THERAPY TECHNIQUES: MAKE CHANGE SENSIBLE
Intervention 5-1: How to Do Sensible Scaling with a Couple
CHAPTER 6 STRENGTHING THE EMOTIONAL BOND: FOCUS ON WHAT REALLY MAKES COUPLES SATISFIED AND STABLE
Figure 6-1: Practical Recipe of Actions to Build Intimacy
Intervention 6-1: CLEAVE to Bond
Intervention 6-2: Tell Me a Secret—Share Your Dreams
Intervention 6-3: Attend to the Emotional Cues
CHAPTER 7 APPLYING PRINCIPLES OF COUPLE THERAPY: FIND THE ESSENCE OF HELPING COUPLES CHANGE
PART 2 INTERACTING HOPEFULLY
CHAPTER 8 BUILDING HOPE WITH HOPE: HANDLING OUR PROBLEMS EFFECTIVELY
Intervention 8-1: The Alligator Intervention (Or How to Respond When Your Partner Snaps)
CHAPTER 9 UNDERSTANDING THE COUPLE’S PROBLEMS AND GOALS: USE ASSESSMENT EFFICIENTLY
Figure 9-1: The Couple Improvement Plan
Table 9-1: Questionnaires and Scales for Clinical Assessment of Couples
Intervention 9-1: Educate Couples about Preferences
Intervention 9-2: Pre-Meeting Assessment Questionnaires
Intervention 9-3: The Dyadic Interview 10 Questions
Intervention 9-4: Assigning Homework and the Couple Improvement Plan Worksheet
Intervention 9-5: Detect Red Flags
CHAPTER 10 PROVIDING FEEDBACK TO THE COUPLE: ENGAGE COUPLES IN PLANNING THEIR TREATMENT
Figure 10-1: Graphic Display of Carl and Sarah’s Ratings of Elements of Their Relationship
Intervention 10-1: The Assessment Report
Intervention 10-2: Feedback Report Example
Intervention 10-3: Example Treatment Plan for Couple Therapy
CHAPTER 11 SETTING UP ROUTINE OUTCOME MONITORING: PUT ASSESSMENT TO WORK
Figure 11-1: H-ROM Questionnaire
Figure 11-2: Display of ROM Results for Each Partner
Intervention 11-1: Routine Outcome Monitoring (ROM) Assessment
CHAPTER 12 USING COUPLE THERAPY METHODS FOR HOPE: INSTILL HOPE FOR THE HOLY, HURTING, AND HEALTHY
Figure 12-1: Pain-Defense-Offense Pattern (adapted from Sells & Yarhouse, 2011)
Intervention 12-1: The Video Review
Intervention 12-2: Stopping Negative Reciprocity
CHAPTER 13 HELPING RESOLVE CONFLICTS: FIND MUTUAL INTERESTS BENEATH SURFACE FIGHTS
Figure 13-1: Couple Conflict: Process and Intervention
Figure 13-2: The LOVE Acronym
Intervention 13-1: LOVE—Three Interventions in One
Intervention 13-2: Five-Minute Date
Intervention 13-3: Simple Listen and Repeat, Warmly
Intervention 13-4: Time Out
Intervention 13-5: Expressing Valuing Love
Intervention 13-6: Experiencing and Expressing Gratitude
Intervention 13-7: Doubt Your Doubt
Intervention 13-8: Diffusing a Power Struggle by Setting up a Win-Win and Inviting Partners to Honor Each Other’s Valued Choices
Intervention 13-9: Values Card Sort
Intervention 13-10: Process the Conflict
Intervention 13-11: Begin a Hard Discussion with a Soft Start-Up
Intervention 13-12: Slimy Pit Demonstration
CHAPTER 14 PROMOTING BETTER COMMUNICATION: FACILITATE WHAT THEY ALREADY KNOW
Figure 14-1: Practice Affirming and Active Responding Instead of Discounting and Disengaging
Intervention 14-1: Love Bank
Intervention 14-2: Love Bank Spin-Offs
Intervention 14-3: Making Affirming Active Responses Using the Speaker-Listener Technique
Intervention 14-4: Leveling and Editing
Intervention 14-5: Love Busters
Intervention 14-6: TANGO and TANGO-E
Intervention 14-7: A Coke and a Smile
PART 3 BONDING
CHAPTER 15 REVEALING THE SECRET TO A HAPPY ROMANTIC RELATIONSHIP: HELP BUILD A MORE INTIMATE EMOTIONAL BOND
Figure 15-1: Sternberg’s Eight Types of Love Derived from Being High or Low in Passion, Intimacy, and Commitment
Figure 15-2: Intimacy Thermometers (Ripley & Worthington, 2014)
Intervention 15-1: Plot the Couple’s Sternberg Love-Triangle History
Intervention 15-2: Conceptualization of Three Types of Power
Intervention 15-3: Assess and Process the Intimacy Thermometers
Intervention 15-4: Graphing Closeness throughout the Relationship
Intervention 15-5: Five Love Languages to Increase Emotional Bonds
Intervention 15-6: A Sculpting Intervention to Deepen Intimacy over Time
Intervention 15-7: Make Dreams and Hopes Solid
CHAPTER 16 ENCOURAGING DEEP EMOTIONAL SHARING: HELP PARTNERS SHARE POSITIVE AND NEGATIVE EMOTIONS
Intervention 16-1: Romantic Dates and Special Times to Enhance Emotional Intimacy
Intervention 16-2: Three Ways to Enhance Sexual Intimacy
Intervention 16-3: Intellectual and Recreational Intimacy
Intervention 16-4: Prompt Spiritual and Romantic Reflection
Intervention 16-5: Assessing Spirituality with Couples
Intervention 16-6: Couple Prayer
Intervention 16-7: Process Ruptures in the Therapeutic Alliance
CHAPTER 17 BALANCING INTIMACY AND CLOSENESS WITH CO-ACTION AND ALONE-TIME: FIND THE RIGHT MIX FOR EACH COUPLE
Figure 17-1: The Distancer-Pursuer Couple Play-List. Topics that Trigger the Pattern of Requesting Interaction Followed by Withdrawal Followed by Elevated Intensity of Requests, etc.
Intervention 17-1: Bonding Day Activity
Intervention 17-2: A Used-Friendly Manual to Love Me
Intervention 17-3: Distancer-Pursuer Playlist
Intervention 17-4: Influencing Well and Accepting Influence
Intervention 17-5: Healthy Paths to Intimacy and Independence
CHAPTER 18 DISCERRNING ATTACHMENT STYLES AND EMOTIONAL BONDS: FIND EFFECTS OF EARLY RELATIONSHIPS AND OF ADULT ONES
Intervention 18-1: Understand Attachment by Creating Genograms Focused on Attachment Styles
Intervention 18-2: Attachment Styles in Their Close Relationships
Intervention 18-3: Two Attachment Styles, One Emotional Bod
Intervention 18-4: Predict Backsliding to Avoid It
Intervention 18-5: Address Defenses against Vulnerability
Intervention 18-6: Solidify Intimacy by Renewing Vows
Intervention 18-7: Solidify Intimacy by Creating a Sojourning Narrative
PART 4 FORGIVING
CHAPTER 19 DEALING WITH HURTS AND INJUSTICES: REDUCE THE INJUSTICE GAP TO MAKE FORGIVENESS EASIER
Figure 19-1: Radical Acceptance
Intervention 19-1: See with Magic Eyes Fable
Intervention 19-2: Questions to Ponder as You Begin to Address Past Hurts with the Couple
Intervention 19-3: Stopping Rumination
Intervention 19-4: Tolerate Offensive Behavior without Blowing Up
Intervention 19-5: Forbear Instead of Seeking Revenge (Or Even Contemplating It)
Intervention 19-6: Offer Restitution
Intervention 19-7: Grace Ain’t Just for Supper
Intervention 19-8: Radical Acceptance
Intervention 19-9: Transform Emotion with Emotion
CHAPTER 20 USING AN EFFECTIVE FORGIVENESS INTERVENTION: TEACH FIVE STEPS TO REACH FORGIVENESS
Intervention 20-1: Issues to Consider as You Start a REACH Forgiveness Group Program for Your Practice
Intervention 20-2: Point-by-Point Summary of the REACH Forgiveness Protocol
Intervention 20-3: Research Supporting REACH Forgiveness Treatment
CHAPTER 21 USING REACH FORGIVENESS IN SESSION: WALK COUPLES THROUGH IT
Figure 21-1: Four Interventions (21-1, 21-2, 21-3, and 21-4) to Promote Movement toward Reconciliation
Intervention 21-1: Choose Four Offenses to Work on
Intervention 21-2: Introduce the REACH Forgiveness Model
Intervention 21-3: Practice Confession and Apology
Intervention 21-4: Apply REACH
Intervention 21-5: Work through a Do-It-Yourself Workbook on REACH Forgiveness
Intervention 21-6: Have Partners Reflect on Their Learning
Intervention 21-7: Six Steps to Decisional Plus Emotional Self-Forgiveness
Intervention 21-8: An Intervention to Forgive Oneself Due to Non-Moral Self-Condemnation
Intervention 21-9: Working with One Partner on Curbing Their Excessive Self-Condemnation
PART 5 RECONCILING AND REBUILDING
CHAPTER 22 TEACHING FORGIVENESS AND RECONCILIATION: GUIDE PARTNERS THROUGH FOUR STEPS TO SET PARTNERS FREE
Figure 22-1: Four Steps to Forgiveness and Reconciliation through Experiencing Empathy (FREE)
Intervention 22-1: Idea #1 for Preparing Couples to Forgive & Reconcile—Consider Wartime
Intervention 22-2: Idea #2 for Preparing Couples to Reconcile—Why Forgive & Reconcile?
Intervention 22-3: Idea #3 for Preparing Couples to Reconcile—Savor Good Forgiveness
CHAPTER 23 MAKING DECISIONS AND DISCUSSING HURTS: DISCERN WHAT CAN AND CAN’T BE REDEEMED
Figure 23-1: Prepare for FREE
Intervention 23-1: Consider Memory of Past Conflicts with an Analogy
Intervention 23-2: It’s Not Only What I Did, But What My Partner Perceived I Did
Intervention 23-3: Psychoeducation about Processing Past Offenses
Intervention 23-4: Dan Wile’s (1988, 2008) Empathic Responding
Intervention 23-5: Preparing for Forgiveness and Reconciliation with Empathy
Intervention 23-6: Preparing for Forgiveness and Reconciliation with Emotional Softening
Intervention 23-7: Preparing for Forgiveness and Reconciliation through Regulating Emotions
Intervention 23-8: Address Resistance, Fuzzy Definitions, and Fears of Forgiveness
Intervention 23-9: Write Letters of Apology as Homework
Intervention 23-10: Discuss Potential Responses to Being Asked to Forgive the Wrongdoer
Intervention 23-11: CONFESS Acronym
CHAPTER 24 REPAIRING DAMAGE TO THE RELATIONSHIP: FIX WHAT CAN BE FIXED
Intervention 24-1: Scaling the Injustice Gap
Intervention 24-2: Responding to Criticism Non-Defensively (In Session)
Intervention 24-3: Principles to Address Unresolvable Problems
CHAPTER 25 REBUILDING DEVOTION WITH FREE: CREATE NEW STRUCTURES TO REPLACE MISSING ONES
Intervention 25-1: For Marriage War-Survivors, Read about Coventry and Dresden
Intervention 25-2: Increase Devotion through Gratitude Interventions
Intervention 25-3: Motivate Couples to Use Regular Checks on Functioning
Intervention 25-4: Discuss Annual Relationship Check-Up Questions
Intervention 25-5: Use the CARE Measure to Have Couples Self-Evaluate the Relationship
PART 6 REFORGING TRUST
CHAPTER 26 REFORGING TRUST: LET COUPLES KNOW THAT IT TAKES LONGER THAN THEY THINK IT WILL
Figure 26-1: Trust
Intervention 26-1: Illuminate the Processes of Trust-Busting and Trust-Building
Intervention 26-2: Use Slow-Building Trust to Deal with Deep Hurts
Intervention 26-3: ATTUNE, An Acronym for Handling a Betrayal
Intervention 26-4: It’s Happening Again
Intervention 26-5: Partner Exercise in Building Trust
Intervention 26-6: The Trust Bank
CHAPTER 27 PREPARING FOR FUTURE RUPTURES: ALERT PARTNERS TO INEVITABLE FUTURE RUPTURES
Intervention 27-1: Anticipate Ruptures by Assessing Change throughout Treatment
Intervention 27-2: Anticipate Ruptures by Staying Calm in the Face of Resistances and Roadblocks
Intervention 27-3: Anticipate Ruptures When Working with Partners with a Trauma History
Intervention 27-4: Anticipate Ruptures by Monitoring the Therapist’s Own Negative Reactions
CHAPTER 28 SOLIDIFYING GAINS AT TERMINATION: PROMOTE REFLECTIVE FUTURE PLANNING IN LIGHT OF REVIEW OF THERAPY
Figure 28-1: Figure in Termination Report Reporting the Results of Relationship Closeness Before Therapy (darker pillars) and After Therapy (lighter pillars)
Intervention 28-1: Three Questions at Termination
Intervention 28-2: An Example of a Final Termination Report
Intervention 28-3: Joshua Memorial or Graduation Ceremony
Intervention 28-4: Post-Therapy Assessment
CHAPTER 29 REACHING A PRODUCTIVE CONCLUSION: HEED THESE TAKE-HOME MESSAGES
Recenzii
Knowing how to recover from life’s inevitable disappointments and emotional injuries is an essential skill for successful relationships. Worthington and Ripley offer a practical, sensitive, and evidence-based approach for helping couples to recover from relationship wounds and pursue a joyful life together. This marvelous new text provides step-by-step interventions for promoting hope and forgiveness and is an indispensable resource for every couple therapist.
Douglas K. Snyder, Ph.D., is Professor of Psychological and Brain Sciences at Texas A&M University (College Station). Co-author of Getting Past the Affair, Co-editor of the Clinical Handbook of Couple Therapy
Here is a book with a difference. The Hope-Focused Couples Approach (HFCA) is packed with more practical suggestions than one could hope for and it creates hope in both couples and therapists. It is technique-heavy and can be integrated with virtually any approach to couple therapy. You can select those techniques that fit into your treatment and add new methods of positive psychology are deigned to promote forgiveness, humility, gratitude, and hope. HFCA provides authoritative coverage of forgiveness and reconciliation for couples based on the authors’ extensive research and practice on these processes. I believe you’ll find this book a hands-on, practical resource.
Leslie Greenberg, Distinguished Research Professor Emeritus, Dept. of Psychology, York University, Toronto Ontario
After 30 years practicing couple therapy, I would describe it as a challenging but deeply rewarding adventure, and one that definitely requires a good “map.” In this book, Worthington and Ripley have provided an outstanding map based on their Hope-Focused Couple Approach drawing on a textured theoretical framework, solid research evidence, and a flexible set of interventions for effectively engaging couples’ strengths and values toward healing and growth. I grew to love doing couple therapy using an early version of this approach during my graduate training, and I continue to benefit from the clinical wisdom and strategic clarity of these authors as their model has evolved. I consider this book essential reading in the field of couple therapy."
Steven J. Sandage, Ph.D., LP, Boston University
This book offers an indispensable roadmap for forming, growing, maintaining, and repairing the emotional bond. Covering topics ranging from how to get couples to do homework, to understanding what to do when the emotional bond is severely strained, to immensely practical strategies to tackle such big and potentially overwhelming constructs like hope and forgiveness, this is a fantastic tool box for both new therapists and seasoned ones alike. I learned many new strategies that I look forward to implementing in my own practice. One of this book’s greatest contributions to the literature is the concept of hope, which is an overlooked virtue in couple relationships. As long as couples have hope and commitment, they can surmount daily fluctuations in their satisfaction and retain motivation to work toward change. Loss of hope is deadly, and I am grateful that these two excellent therapists have brought this concept front and center of this book so that other therapists will pay attention to it and learn how to cultivate it when it is waning.
Kristina Coop Gordon, Ph.D. Professor and Associate Dean for Community Engagement University of Tennessee-Knoxville. Co-author of Getting Past the Affair
This book is the first to provide an innovative, practice friendly integration of constructs in positive psychology into couple therapy. The numerous interventions provided throughout the text are explained within a patient-friendly framework that will appeal to all therapists regardless of theoretical orientation. It is an essential resource that belongs on the shelves of novice to seasoned practitioners.
Frank D. Fincham, Ph.D. Eminent Scholar and Director, Florida State University Family Institute
This book, written by two true experts in couples’ relationships, incorporates a rare combination of strategies to inspire hope, positivity, and forgiveness for couples in an easy-to-understand, practical manner. It is filled with empirically supported strategies that will be invaluable across therapists’ theoretical orientations while providing a cogent, flexible framework for treatment. This volume will expand and deepen the work of both experienced and beginning couple therapists, and I recommend it highly.
Don Baucom Distinguished Professor of Psychology and Neuroscience University of North Carolina. Co-author of Baucom, D. H., Fischer, M. S., Corrie, S., Worrell, M., & Boeding, S. E., Treating relationship distress and psychopathology in couples: A cognitive-behavioural approach (2020)
Worthington and Ripley have expanded the boundaries of couple therapy, covering all the twists and turns from intake to termination, as well as providing a rich conceptual framework to guide intervention. Their detailed description of over 100 practical strategies to help couples as they strengthen their relationships and build hope for the future is a wonderful addition to the field and a must read for students, teachers, scholars, and practitioners in the ever-evolving field of couple therapy.
Steven R. H. Beach, Ph.D. Regent’s Professor of Psychology, University of Georgia Director, Center for Family Research Author, Depression in Marriage
This is an exceptional resource for marital and couples therapists of any theoretical background. Centered around the goal of producing hope, Worthington and Ripley provide over 100 clear, usable—“how to do it”— strategies. The work is richly cited, engaging, and thoroughly useful.
Scott M. Stanley, Ph.D. Research Professor, University of Denver. Co-author of Fighting for Your Marriage
Douglas K. Snyder, Ph.D., is Professor of Psychological and Brain Sciences at Texas A&M University (College Station). Co-author of Getting Past the Affair, Co-editor of the Clinical Handbook of Couple Therapy
Here is a book with a difference. The Hope-Focused Couples Approach (HFCA) is packed with more practical suggestions than one could hope for and it creates hope in both couples and therapists. It is technique-heavy and can be integrated with virtually any approach to couple therapy. You can select those techniques that fit into your treatment and add new methods of positive psychology are deigned to promote forgiveness, humility, gratitude, and hope. HFCA provides authoritative coverage of forgiveness and reconciliation for couples based on the authors’ extensive research and practice on these processes. I believe you’ll find this book a hands-on, practical resource.
Leslie Greenberg, Distinguished Research Professor Emeritus, Dept. of Psychology, York University, Toronto Ontario
After 30 years practicing couple therapy, I would describe it as a challenging but deeply rewarding adventure, and one that definitely requires a good “map.” In this book, Worthington and Ripley have provided an outstanding map based on their Hope-Focused Couple Approach drawing on a textured theoretical framework, solid research evidence, and a flexible set of interventions for effectively engaging couples’ strengths and values toward healing and growth. I grew to love doing couple therapy using an early version of this approach during my graduate training, and I continue to benefit from the clinical wisdom and strategic clarity of these authors as their model has evolved. I consider this book essential reading in the field of couple therapy."
Steven J. Sandage, Ph.D., LP, Boston University
This book offers an indispensable roadmap for forming, growing, maintaining, and repairing the emotional bond. Covering topics ranging from how to get couples to do homework, to understanding what to do when the emotional bond is severely strained, to immensely practical strategies to tackle such big and potentially overwhelming constructs like hope and forgiveness, this is a fantastic tool box for both new therapists and seasoned ones alike. I learned many new strategies that I look forward to implementing in my own practice. One of this book’s greatest contributions to the literature is the concept of hope, which is an overlooked virtue in couple relationships. As long as couples have hope and commitment, they can surmount daily fluctuations in their satisfaction and retain motivation to work toward change. Loss of hope is deadly, and I am grateful that these two excellent therapists have brought this concept front and center of this book so that other therapists will pay attention to it and learn how to cultivate it when it is waning.
Kristina Coop Gordon, Ph.D. Professor and Associate Dean for Community Engagement University of Tennessee-Knoxville. Co-author of Getting Past the Affair
This book is the first to provide an innovative, practice friendly integration of constructs in positive psychology into couple therapy. The numerous interventions provided throughout the text are explained within a patient-friendly framework that will appeal to all therapists regardless of theoretical orientation. It is an essential resource that belongs on the shelves of novice to seasoned practitioners.
Frank D. Fincham, Ph.D. Eminent Scholar and Director, Florida State University Family Institute
This book, written by two true experts in couples’ relationships, incorporates a rare combination of strategies to inspire hope, positivity, and forgiveness for couples in an easy-to-understand, practical manner. It is filled with empirically supported strategies that will be invaluable across therapists’ theoretical orientations while providing a cogent, flexible framework for treatment. This volume will expand and deepen the work of both experienced and beginning couple therapists, and I recommend it highly.
Don Baucom Distinguished Professor of Psychology and Neuroscience University of North Carolina. Co-author of Baucom, D. H., Fischer, M. S., Corrie, S., Worrell, M., & Boeding, S. E., Treating relationship distress and psychopathology in couples: A cognitive-behavioural approach (2020)
Worthington and Ripley have expanded the boundaries of couple therapy, covering all the twists and turns from intake to termination, as well as providing a rich conceptual framework to guide intervention. Their detailed description of over 100 practical strategies to help couples as they strengthen their relationships and build hope for the future is a wonderful addition to the field and a must read for students, teachers, scholars, and practitioners in the ever-evolving field of couple therapy.
Steven R. H. Beach, Ph.D. Regent’s Professor of Psychology, University of Georgia Director, Center for Family Research Author, Depression in Marriage
This is an exceptional resource for marital and couples therapists of any theoretical background. Centered around the goal of producing hope, Worthington and Ripley provide over 100 clear, usable—“how to do it”— strategies. The work is richly cited, engaging, and thoroughly useful.
Scott M. Stanley, Ph.D. Research Professor, University of Denver. Co-author of Fighting for Your Marriage
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Everett L. Worthington Jr. is a clinical psychologist and Commonwealth Professor Emeritus at Virginia Commonwealth University. He has had over 40 years of licensed practice and has written almost 50 books on topics such as forgiveness, couple therapy, and spirituality/religion.
Jennifer S. Ripley is a professor of Clinical Psychology at Regent University, Virginia, sharing the Hughes Chair for Integration of Mental Health. As a licensed clinical psychologist, she directs the couple lab at Regent University, supervises many couple therapists, and sees dozens of couples per year, testing the ideas for this book in a real-world therapeutic setting. Her website is www.hopecouples.com.
Jennifer S. Ripley is a professor of Clinical Psychology at Regent University, Virginia, sharing the Hughes Chair for Integration of Mental Health. As a licensed clinical psychologist, she directs the couple lab at Regent University, supervises many couple therapists, and sees dozens of couples per year, testing the ideas for this book in a real-world therapeutic setting. Her website is www.hopecouples.com.
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This practical book provides a guide for therapists who want to be more effective in couple therapy. With 125 boxed interventions explained within a patient-friendly framework emphasizing hope and a strategy for change, this resource can expand the flexibility of any therapist regardless of theoretical approach.