“Get ready to revolutionize your relationship with Emergent Love.” ―Dr. Pepper Schwartz, New York Times bestselling author and Professor of Sociology at the University of Washington.
 
Many of us were raised with the idea that true love means finding our "other half" and that a spark is the best foundation for successful long-term partnerships and marriages.  But what if this understanding is flawed?

Grounded in two decades of original research and work with couples from around the world, Love by Design introduces a groundbreaking new foundation for love: The Emergent Love Model. As Dr. Nasserzadeh knows, successful partnerships do not thrive on love, at least as we know it. Instead of chasing our butterflies we need to cultivate six core relational ingredients that make it possible for love to emerge:

• Attraction: What do you like and value about each other?
• Respect: How do you keep each other’s needs and priorities in mind?
• Trust: Do you know that you will show up for each other consistently?
• Compassion: Can you honor the other’s emotional experience without making it about you?
• Shared vision: Where are you committed to going together?
• Loving behaviors: How do you show your partner they’re special to you?

Offering dozens of exercises and reflection prompts, this groundbreaking book—perfect for fans of 8 Rules of Love or The Love Prescription—will give readers a new foundation for their coupledom—one that will help your coupledom thrive for a lifetime.