NARCISSISTIC ABUSE

People with narcissistic personality disorder often seem to not really love themselves. Actually, they're driven by shame. It's the idealized image of themselves, which they convince themselves they embody, that they admire. But deep down, narcissists and people with NPD feel the gap between the fa ade they show the world and their shame-based self. They work hard to avoid feeling that shame.

This gap is true for other codependents as well, but a narcissist uses defense mechanisms that are destructive to relationships and cause pain and damage to their loved ones' self-esteem.

Some narcissists' coping mechanisms can be abusive - hence the term, "narcissistic abuse." However, someone can be abusive, but not be a narcissist. Addicts and people with other mental illnesses, such as bipolar disorder, antisocial personality disorder (sociopathy) and borderline personality disorders also are abusive. So are many codependents without a mental illness. Abuse is abuse, no matter the abuser's diagnosis.

If you're in a relationship with a narcissist, it's important to get outside support to understand clearly what's going on, to rebuild your self-esteem and confidence, and to learn to communicate effectively and set boundaries.

This book will help you to make changes. If you feel in danger, don't believe broken promises. Get immediate help, and read "NARCISSISTIC ABUSE - The Ultimate Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Workbook".