Cracking the marriage code! Everybody wants that trade secret of better. Well I'm here to inform you that the only trade secret to better is work. She not the woman I married. We stop having fun. It seems as though we no longer have anything in common. Why is this so difficult now? Over the many years of being married to the same woman we have had many challenges. Through our challenges, I can say, it caused us to grow closer. Those challenges also showed us hidden strength that we didn't know we had. My personal manuscript will takes you on a journey; the steps I took to ensure that my marriage not only survive tough times. 20 plus years of choosing the words "I do" has taught me that "I do" does not have an expiration date. In order for any marriage to survive tough times, we as men must wholeheartedly take up the banner of what it really means to be a HUSBAND. Meriam-Webster: a male partner in a marriage, to manage prudently and economically. We must lead from the front. We must stand strong as a sure foundation. We must stand at the ready to be attentive to guard our most prized possession. Let us keep in mind that what it took to capture the heart; we must double our efforts to keep it.