You already possess everything you need to "love your self"; the essential practice necessary to experience joy, happiness and freedom in your life and to create healthy, vibrant and lasting intimate relationships. To love your self means with focused attention, 100% acceptance, appreciating your unique space in the universe, and granting your self the allowance to be OK wherever you are in your life journey. Spencer draws on decades of interpersonal relationships, academic study and professional counseling. In this work, he organizes the essential ingredients to experiencing healthy love and creating and maintaining healthy relationships. In this writing he teaches: Love is a Choice, not an emotion. Learn the elements we choose when we "love" Learn to distinguish the voice of love or sharp, cutting words and actions of ego. Understand why finding "the one" or "that chemistry" are myth-stakes. Learn proven models for healthy conflict resolution Restore your self to love by understanding "what happened." The book provides practical knowledge about understanding and setting boundaries, knowing your preferences, improving your partner selection and expressing emotions in a healthy manner. People and relationships are not complicated… it's all about Love.